Father & Daughter

I LOVE this pic!

Zara & her Baby Brother

She loves her baby brother, but if u ask her "boleh tak amik adik/baby?" she will nod her head. LOL!

Pics below were taken in the morning both in their sleepwear..
See...how happy she looks when i put her baby brother on her lap :>

The Month of Muharram

Happy New Year everyone!
In conjunction with the month of muharram, we decided to shave Khaleef's head.
Shd hv done it on his 7th day, but we hv been postponing it due to DH's flu & cough.

half bald

Aye aye sir!

Mode: Pissed! (i'm bald now!) I prefer half bald head, lebih macho.

Ignore the pink bouncinette. LOL! it belongs to Zara

November Entry

Ola!!

It's been a month since i last updated. Sorry for the lack of updates.

Below are what u missed in Nov 2010 particularly on:

2.11.2010

Our 3rd wedding anniversary.
No flowers, No chocs or candies, x romantic candle lite dinner...we celebrated the day in a different way this time around, in a labour room waiting for the arrival of our pressie.

@2:20am i've delivered our pressie with DH by my side.
The rest of the day n nite we spent by sleeping in btwn bfing n eating.
Alhamdulillah, the labor process was smooth, fast & easy.
I cud do it again & again;P...really, giving birth is one of those beautiful moment.


Introducing, Zara's baby brother: Khaleef Zaqwan

Selebihnye, gmbr Khaleef's hobby, iaitu TIDO. I called him my peaceful baby bc he loves to sleep.

I'm counting anor 14 days till my confinement ends.

• Confinement is b-o-r-i-n-g.

• I can't carry zara and i can't walk around so much or else, everyone will freak out reminded me to slow down.
  

• I know most of u love the post natal massages. Well..i DON'T!! SAKIT LA!! But the aftermath is refreshing..itupun after 3 days. I've suffered from body ache for 2 days. Ouchh!!

• Stitches - I hate them. Thank you to jeli gamat. After 10 days i feel 100% healed.

• Confinement fud- Yummeh. I love them-fishes, soup, veges! But i do crave for A&W float, butterscotch, abc & Baskin Robbins. Huhu..

• Zara Khalyssa - my poor baby, she was hospitalised for 3 days due to high fever, flu & cough. Her paed suspected her for pneumonia, but actually it's just a normal flu, cough and phlegm.
  

So that's it for now.
Will update more on Zara & Khaleef.

P/s: Hey!! i'm a mother of two now;>>>>

No..it's not Blood!!

Girls will always be girls..

I was folding linens..while zara is playing behind me with something (i didnt bother looking) while talking in her own language.
Suddenly all was quiet..i turned to look at her wondering 'apsal baik sgt ni'...I was shocked looking at her face at first, then i looked at her hands n screamed ' Zara!! NO!!! Stila mama!!!'
My lip stila pallette is ruined bc of this girl's artwork. 

tgk..budak calit lipstick kat muke

ade hati tgk cermin, admiring her artwork..a narcissist?
She giggled after being scolded

I just hv to capture zara's first lipstick moment. 
*sigh..i hv to be more careful next time..how on earth did she get her hands on my make up bag? I guess..i under estimate her height. Huhu

Auntie B in da houz!!

I'm officially an auntie today:)
Introducing my 1st nephew...

                                                                                   1 day old

Now, zara has a playmate!

Mode: Nangis sampai bengkak mata

Hukhukhuk...

I miss my baby daughter...

Everyone's gone to Putrajaya bc my sister's at the hospital n gonna deliver her 1st baby anytime.

Everyone's camping at my MIL's house, except me & dh bc we hv to work tmrrw.

My parents decided to bring zara along as nobody going to look after her after we r off to work.

This is my 2nd time being far fr zara:(

I hate this feeling.

I went bawling after seeing her curly hair bobbing out from the car window while waving gbye at us..

....i cried looking at her pampers..

....i cried looking at her playpen..

....i cried looking at her favourite toys..

....i cried looking at vitagen bottles..that's her favourite drink..

....ok, i think i shd stop crying. I don't need a puffy face n eyes tmrrw.

DH been sweet, trying to console me..sorry dear, i don't know why am i so emotional.

Zara..mama miss u so bad;,,(

p/s: perhaps i shd blame my pregnancy hormone for this outbreak.

Painless

Weird thing happened after 4 days of misery.

This morning, i woke up and the contractions were gone! Lalala...
I slept peacefully last nite and woke up this morning feeling energized n painless.
Even thru out the day till now, i only felt contractions thrice, x every hour n mins like the past 4 days.
I guess bun #2 changed his mind;)
or...
Just to scare myself, i read that when u've reached 2cm-4cm dilation, the regular contractions that
u've been hvg for several days will suddenly stop. It's a way for your body to rest, until active labor sets in several
days later. They called it prodromal labor. *gigit jari..
Owh well...whatever it is, i'm relieved that i'm x delivering anytime soon and i'm happy that i'm painless.
I can go to work happily n hv great lunches with my colleagues.
It's time to enjoy my final weeks with lots of food n quality time with zara.

Timing Contractions

In case u r wondering...i'm still here!

Despite the contractions and all the toilet drama, i'm still baking bun #2.

Went to the hosp yesterday to check on the contractions.

Dr said it might be braxton hicks or pre-term labor. But, since the baby seems active, water bag pun full lagi and everything seems nice except that my tummy is really low and the shooting pains, Dr said it might be braxton hicks la.

OK..kalau braxton hicks kenapa sgt sakit mcm nk bersalin ni?? pls...go away pain! i wanted to enjoy my final weeks.

Dr gave me 3 days mc to time the contraction in order to determine which is which.

Eventho i'm on mc for 3 days, being a workaholic me..kononnyer lah, i am in the office right now and perhaps langkah kanan masuk ct, bc after 2 hours of trial..parties wanted to resolve the matter. GOOD!! I like that.

Now, i need someone to fetch me home.

On Dr's instruction: to time contraction.

I'm a failure lah on timing my own contractions....when the pain comes, if i can bear it, i'll bear it. If i can't..then what choice do i hv? still kene thn jugak la kan? i'll grip on anything that i cud or i just bit my lips till the pain goes away.

I've uploaded contractions timer application yesterday, however, when the pain comes i failed to push the start button because i am too focus on handling the pain.

I'll try my best to time it today or tomorrow.

I need to lie down.

I want to go home now.

Hope that bun #2 cud hold on tight until our anniversary date.

p/s: Betul la org ckp experience pregnantkan anak 1st and 2nd is diff.

10.10.10

Yesterday evening, i had a mild contraction.

Around 3am onwards, i woke up thrice due to diarrhea.

I am not sure whether it's food poisoning or if it's the onset of labour?

However...the weird and funny thing is..all i cud think of before entering the toilet on the 3rd time was "I am FAMISHED!! What shd i eat ek.. after i'm done with tis??"

Err...correct me if i'm wrong, in a normal diarrhea situation...u wouldn't be thinking of food what more having an appetite kan??? Plus, no one who had lunch n dinner with me yesterday seems to be complaining of diarrhea.

I googled about my situation and found that some women goes into labour 2-3 days after experiencing diarrhea. Some women pulak 1-2 weeks after that.

Well...the conclusion is, if it's gone within 24 hrs then perhaps it's just a stomach bug, but if it persists with contractions...then i hv to be prepared...uhuh.

Bun#2 we r just 34 weeks 5 days dear, 37 weeks is in 2 weeks time la!! Sabar la...

The most common signs that labor may soon begin include:

• The baby "drops" or engages into the pelvis, which is called lightening. Lightening may occur two to four weeks prior to labor in first-time mothers and often not until labor begins if you have previously had children. - Checked
• Your abdomen usually appears lower and more protruding - Checked n even more obvious this morning.
• You may experience a greater ease in breathing, relief from heartburn and an ability to eat larger portions. - Checked
• Frequent bowel movements may be experienced within 48 hours of labor, cleansing the lower bowel in preparation for birth. - Was it??
• Diarrhea or flu like symptoms without fever. Indigestion, nausea, or vomiting are common a day or so before labor begins. - Hmm...
• Increased vaginal discharge during the last few weeks of pregnancy as the body prepares for the passage of the baby through the birth canal. - Checked
• Increased Braxton-Hicks contractions during the last weeks of pregnancy, which are "practice" contractions that prepare the uterus for labor and may cause some effacement and dilation (thinning and opening) of the cervix. These contractions do not ordinarily cause pain but may be sufficiently strong and regular to be confused with true labor. This is referred to as false labor. - Checked, been having this since 1st trimester bc i hv an irritable uterus..i can't differentiate the two anymore.
• Possible "bloody show" or the release of slightly brown, pink or blood-tinged mucus from effacement and dilation (the thinning and opening) of the cervix, causing the mucus plug to be released from the cervix. - Not yet
• Some women notice a sudden burst of energy, sometimes called a "nesting instinct" approximately 24-48 hours before the start of labor. You may feel a strong desire to clean the house and prepare for the baby. Try not to tire yourself as nature gives you this extra energy to help you during labor. If you must be active, be careful not to overexert yourself! - OK..we've cleared our room since last week n i've packed our hospital bag.
• A loss or leveling off in weight may be noticed in the last few days before labor begins. It is common to lose 1-3 pounds of fluid before labor begins as a result of hormonal shifts. - I lost half a kg. Does it count? hehe
• Mother just feels "different," not quite herself. - I feel different today...i just wanted to sleep. Eh..wait, bukan everyday ke mcm ni? but i do feel a lil bit different today..got headache and feels seram sejuk perhaps from lack of sleep.
• The bag of water may break. Depending on the location of the break in the amniotic sac, the break can feel like a gush, or an uncontrolled trickle of fluid coming from the vagina. - Unchecked

10 out of twelve were checked.

Adakah bun #2 has its own plan??? nk keluar on 10.10.10??? or deciding to hv his own birth date tanak share with grandma & mama pit? or tanak kuar on our anniversary date which falls on 2.11?

We'll just wait n see...as i'm typing this i felt so sleepy and still having a mild contraction n mcm ade bowling bowl nk terjatuh down there.

P/s: I didnt experience this with my 1st child...uh..i need to go to the toilet again..

I am extremely tired.

I wish i'm not at the office right now but having a sweet dream in my bed with lil zara.

We finally managed to fulfill invitations of open house and beraya last weekend - aqiqah+open house and meeting dh's best friend.

Ye....dua rumah je pun, but I've 2 energizer bunnies - inside and outside my body. Handling both of them is a handful and tummyful.

I can't imagine handling these two in the near future. I noticed that bun #2 is all excited when zara's at her utmost active behaviour or when she's talking loudly in her i'm-not-a-baby-not-yet-a-toddler language. Bun #2 will be kicking vigorously, rolling and making tsunami inside like nobody business. Sakit ok mcm nk terberanak je.

Oh..minus this week, i hv approximately less than 3 weeks (if bun #2 is like zara who came out 3 weeks earlier) until i met our latest addition of lil energizer bunny.

I gained 2 kilos within 1 & 1/2 week and believe me the gaining process won't stop until delivery day because i'm constantly hungry towards the end of third tri. Err...bukan ke, towards the end u'll filled up quickly because u dont hv much space?. However, not me... i can eat a full course meal during dinner time, and can still stuff my face with roti canai, roti tisu and a glass of teh tarik... or during breakfast, after filling myself with a full plate of nasi kerabu and a glass of hot milo, 15 mins later my stomach is growling for food. I just hope, i won't turn into a BIG BABY WHALE by delivery time.

I've packed our hospital bag!!! it's to prevent myself from getting caught off guard like last time (my thought was to check up saje2 for mc and off to pavillion but instead to the labour room i went).

Our hosp bag refers to me, DH and baby. I almost packed zara's clothing but then i realized, hey..this is not a vacation. I do wish she cud be there with us all the way, but it's impossible. I don't think the Dr will allow a toddler in the delivery room eventho i cud convince her that zara's naughtiness cud speed up the delivery and pushing process.

Few more weeks until delivery but then isn't it wonderful if we cud do this:

Semolina / Sugee Cake

Ever tried a semolina cake? no? me neither. I've tried basboussa tho, almost similar but it's totally semolina in it without flour sprinkled with crushed pistachio on top. It's very sweet (imagine a buttery cake drenched in a condensed milk!) giler manis tp giler sedap! Nowadays, it's hard to get a yummy basboussa:((( Last time i had it was at taza's restaurant. Ok enuff of basboussa, this entry is about a semolina cake. I accidentally found this recipe while blog hopping and decided to try it cause the cake pic in that blog was too irresistible (unlike mine, i snap the pic above using my camera phone) so it lacks the lustre of a moist cake. Despite of the pic above, honestly...it's an absolutely delicious semolina cake, too good not to be shared. Imagine this: the cake is very moist, buttery to the taste with a rich buttery aroma especially when it's fresh from the oven (Sgt wangi!!), has grainy textures of semolina, and it's just perfect for tea time.

Here's the recipe:

Semolina Cake

140g cake flour

1 tsp baking powder

100g semolina

1/4 tsp salt

4 eggs

100ml milk

2 tsp vanilla extract/essence

250g butter, at room temperature

170g sugar

2 tbsp honey

Sift flour and baking powder into a bowl and stir in semolina and salt. Mix well.

Beat eggs, milk and vanilla essence together in a bowl.

Cream butter, sugar and honey till light and fluffy. Gradually trickle in egg mixture, beating constantly. Mix in flour mixture on low speed and stir till well combined.

Spoon the batter into an 8-inch cake tray lined with baking paper.

Bake for 45 minutes at 150 deg C or until an inserted cake tester comes out clean.

Cool cake for 15 minutes, then unmould and let cool.

Decorate as you like or have it as it is. Best served with a cup if tea.

Post Entry: Raya Piccas

"Once they become mobile, their natural curiosity and desire to learn about their environment is unleashed, and no corner of world (or your home) is off limits." - anon

As promised my post raya entry of pics:

Remember i told u i managed to snap several pics of Zara & DH? Here goes..

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Yep...it's hard to snap a decent pic of a toddler.

This is the only decent pic tp pun x cukup decent..hahahaha

Ini adalah ala2 aksi diva menjerit tak dpt duit raya

Finally, lil zara's asleep with her doll while waiting for her uncle to get back fr mamak restaurant to take photos of us..

Hence, no raya pics of the three of us this year. Hahaha. Perhaps next year!

This morning, i read one of my favourite blog and let me quote what she said;

" I was genuinely, sincerely very happy for her. You know, it’s not every day that we can say that we’re happy for others and really MEAN it. And even if we are sincerely happy for that person, it’s never the same as feeling as though that person’s happiness is your happiness. I hope you get what I mean. As for me, I don’t feel like that very often although I have been generally happy for others many times. It was just one of those special warm feeling. As to why I feel differently this time, I guess it has to do with a ‘long story cut short’. "

I feel you today girl! I feel the same way too for the very same reason.

I am so so so happy for you know who you are!

*A silent prayer for u....AMiiinnn*

Raya Bug

How's ur 1st and 2nd week of raya? Mine were a bleak one. No family pic of us taken, bc zara's asleep when our photographer (my brother) got back fr kedai mamak for his roti canai di pagi raya! Well, i managed to snap a few pics of Zara and DH. But, i'm too lazy to upload those pics. Bile kerajinan tibe, i'll try to upload k.

We failed to attend several invitation for open houses and failed to visit most of our relatives. On the 1st and 2nd raya, zara is still recovering from flu n cough. We managed to cover 2 houses only. On the 3rd of raya, DH's down with flu, fever, sore throat, tonsilitis and cough till today. On the 5th of raya, i caught the bug as well suffering fr swollen uvula, flu, mild fever, a bit of coughing until today. THANK YOU sgt2 to those who kind heartedly invited us to ur open house. Sorry that we hv to reject it as we don't want u guys to catch the sick bug.

Eventho we are sick, we wouldn't want zara to miss her 2nd raya celebration, with a heavy heart we let our lil zara spent her hari raya collecting duit raya visiting close relatives with her grandparents, auntie and uncles. While, we were left at home to recover.

Don't u just hate it when u fell sick during ur holiday? kacau je kan. All u know u r back at work (like right now!) and still in a holiday mood. But, there were several times i dreamt of work...i.e listening to a complicated trial or listening to lawyers bickering with each other. Did i miss work that much?? * Shudders. It must've been the sick bug!

Anyway, i can't wait for the next salary!! cepat la...before i 'ter' use the money in the raya packets for the kids! kuikuikui.

Eid Ul Fitr 2010

I'm craving for a freshly baked choc chip cookies.
So i baked these sweet lovely cute as button munchies on the eve of raya.
I managed to get 2 jars from 1 dough and a BIG size cookie to end my craving;>

2 jars of cookies

My out of shape Big size cookie fresh from the oven

Pic after a BIG bite of the cookie



With that I wish u all,

SELAMAT HARI RAYA
MAAF ZAHIR BATIN

Countdown to 4:30pm

Less than a week we r gonna celebrate hari raya..cepatnyer...which means i hv 2 mths or 1 & 1/2 mths lagi till bun#2 arrival.

This ramadhan, i've missed 11 days of fasting due to contractions, terlepas sahur & uh....nausea+vomitting (i didn't hv this with lil zara back then during the 3rd tri, so...this is a new experience having to overcome nausea with a big belly) :(((

On bun#2,

We did a detailed (anomaly) scan.

Alhamdulillah, everything's perfect :) we counted the tiny toes and fingers, saw the chubby cheeks and cute lips, measured everything and finally the gender is confirmed - it's gonna be a baby brother for lil zara:>>> Yaaaay!!

I've yet to shop all out for bun #2 since everytime i went out shopping, i end up buying for lil zara instead and 1 or 2 rompers for bun #2. Girls clothing lines are sooo fabulous as compared to boys, mmg ada yg cute2 for boys but limited choice pulak. Besides, it's so much fun dressing up lil zara.

Cian...bun #2. Ok, bun bun.. mommy vowed to shop for u next week along with mommy's raya shopping.

I'm on leave starting next week till 17 Sept 10. Wuhooo!!! I can spend more time with lil zara;)

Right now, i'm counting the hours till 4:30pm. Cepat lah nk balik!!

Oh Azizah...

1st: That's my boss name (uh..so-called-boss here in KL).

2nd: I banged into an old lady's gen 2. Scratched her bumper on the right side and rear bumper terkuar like 1cm. How did i banged into her? i'm having contractions and need to get home fast n jugak jalan tgh jam. Usually kereta akan rapat2 kan? But not this lady, this lady left a WIDE space between her and the car infront. It's good!! but not good in my condition yg tgh emergency and jugak when my car is in a menyerong position in the middle of the lane nk ke lane kanan with signals on and she budged an inch aje rupenyer??? so i banged into her and broke my headlights. Hahahahaha. Ok...it's my fault anyway, sape suh salah budget and tak alert that she will stop so suddenly. Anyway, the point is that lady's name is Azizah. I was like ok..u remind me of my office la lady.

3rd: Talk about sehati sejiwa kan, my other half banged into anor car as well, 2 days after my incident. However, it wasnt his fault it's the other guy who ran away but we managed to get his plate number after a series of chasing along the Putrajaya-LDP. So, off we went to a police station and met this sergeant lady. By the name of? Yes...Sjn Azizah!! uh?? that name again?

Oh my...what's going on here? However, all i can tell is...all of them have similar traits. Seriously!!! Eh....i'm not referring to bad traits (jgn salah sangka...nnt ade org slh interpret n report lak) but positive one la- Nmpk garang tp hati baik and ramah bagi nasihat.

P/S: Motive of this entry- duit raya mungkin akan berkurangan secara drastic atau paling horror, takde langsung!!!! sbb wit dah abis terbang fixing Mrs Azizah's car, my headlights, and soon to be fixed- DH's car. Perhaps u guys can contribute duit raya kat kitorg instead. hahaha. Shooh..shooh...off u go bad luck. We had enuff!

3 rasa

Oleh kerana terliur dgn status FB Lina maka terhasillah the result below:

Ikan Siakap 3 Rasa

DH said "leh bukak kedai dah ni". Owh iye ke? hahahaha..tp kene cari tukang goreng ikan bole?

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Fasting during the month of ramadhan while being pregnant is challenging. For someone who's a lazy bum, having to wake up at 5am for sahur is a BIG achievement. I spent fr 5am till azan subh stuffing my face with rice, bread, milk, plain water, kurma and vitamins. However, the hunger pang starts to set in at 10am, n bun #2 will be kicking vigorously perhaps asking for nourishment? or maybe the sound of my growling stomach wakes bun #2 from his/her peaceful slumber. I can tahan the hunger n thirst but up to 5pm i'm flat already...but due to this weird cravings for my own cooking that i hv...tah hape2 kan? particularly this month of ramadhan, i hv to cook..even a simple omelet with onions and chillis cud take about half an hour bc i'll be spending 5 mins chopping onions, 5 mins relaxing on the couch and so on until i finished cooking. By 730pm whole body is shaking with hunger. I'm not complaining, i just found it very challenging and i'm impressed with pregnant mommies who are able to complete 30 days of fasting without a hitch.

Day 6 of fasting, alhamdullilah up to this day there was no contraction attack at all. Amazing!! Eventho i skipped taking pills there was no contraction. Thanks to uterus and bun #2 for being so cooperative and good to me. I hope this will lasts until the 30th day and so on.

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An entry is not perfect without mentioning my notty lil zara. At 1 yr and 5 months, she's been a handful lil girl even during sleeping time..giler lasak!! boleh tido 360 degree, tibe2 je kaki dia leh sedap2 landing on my face la, on DH stomach la, belum masuk cerita lain lagi...kejap lagi we found her giggling on top of the dark staircase looking down at our panic faces, or there was this one time when i was about to doze off she poured a plain water fr her seeping cup on our bed. Ok, it's my fault anyway, letting her drink in bed. Hahaha. Owh, yes, some of u might be thinking zara tido lasak and kaki naik muka?? Yes, we co-sleep with our dotter bc we find it comfortable and happy to do so, the feeling of hugging ur dotter to sleep is priceless. I've tried several times letting her sleep on her own inside the cot, but the problem is ME, i can't sleep peacefully because i'll be waking up several times at nite checking on her. Motherly habis la konon *perasan mode. Actually, i feel she's safe sleeping close to us. But, sooner or later she will be sleeping on her own bed anyway.

Zara's mile stone at 1 yr and 5 months:

• She owned her full set of milk/baby teeth since 1 yr old. I love looking at her tiny baby canines and baby molars when she smiles....comel je.

• Her vocabs: "kuar" "mamam" "banana" "mama" "abah" "air" "ten".....err that's it. Hahahaha x byk lagi...but she understands what we said and cud understand our instructions.

• She can run and knows how to jump on the bed!! mane belajar tatau..i guess she just found out the bed is springy.

• She loves to dance to any groovy beats...including the sounds of bolt n thunder, blending machine, batu tumbuk (her fave), and even the sound of rain falling on the roof!!! I wonder where did she get such keen ears for music?

• She's an observer, and has a strong determination. If she wants something she'll try to get it eventho it will took her some time. She's been aiming my grandmother small square radio since last week. However my grandmother been hiding it from her every now n then switching places of hiding. Yday she finally got the chance to enter my grandmother's room when no one is around and guess what? She took my grandmother's square radio from the hiding place which was.. ok, senang je pun under the pillow n barter trade it with her abc123 sound palm top which she placed nicely under my grandmother's pillow. (That girl!! nk marah pun tak bleh...sbb pandai buat sistem barter trade lak.)

Actually kalau nk cerita about zara, mmg byk sgt. Tp enuffla for the mean time. I just hope bun #2 wud love lil zara and lil zara cud accept n love her lil bro/sis without throwing tantrums.

Happy Ramadhan

"O moon faced beloved,

the month of Ramadhan has arrived.

Cover the table

And open the path of praise" - Rumi

Selamat menunaikan ibadah puasa everyone!!

Pavlova with LoVe

For the first time, i'm putting to good use my wedding pressie from Pit. [Thanx Pit!!]

All these time when baking cakes, i prefer to do it manually, baru rase puas hati using just the wooden spoon and a bowl. This time i hv to use a stand mixer to whisk the egg whites.

See the result below!!

Before

After

First attempt: Successful

Texture: Crispy on the outside, soft and marshmallowish on the inside.

Taste: Sweet, Creamy and Sour due to the strawberry.

Bole buat lagi kalau rajin!! ;>>

Qadha / Fidyah / Both?

Ok, this entry adalah informative bg pregnant mommy and BF-ing mommy.

I've been wondering about this all the time, since my 1st pregnancy. I didn't fast during the month of ramadhan back then bc i'm worried about my baby's condition plus due to the mysterious bleeding i was ordered to bed rest. So, i hv to replace all 30 days (pheww!!). However, i'm short of 4 days still and am pregnant with bun #2. I tried to fast since last week, but due to irritable uterus..i get contractions regularly if triggered by hunger, thirsty, stress, exhaustion and etc. So, i've been wondering..WHAT IF...what if je la kan (not that i'm planning too), i can't fast this month of ramadhan again ... i'll hv another 30 days + 4 days to replace? Uh...tak sanggup ok.

I did some googling on the topic and found this:

Credit to: http://ainspirasi.wordpress.com/2008/01/04/puasa-untuk-wanita-hamil-dan-menyusui/

Puasa untuk Wanita Hamil dan Menyusui

January 4, 2008

Filed under: Fatwa, Wawasan — ainspirasi @ 12:59 am

Pertanyaan:

Assalaamu‘alaikum

Saya ingin bertanya, dalam keadaan apakah seseorang tersebut boleh mengganti puasa dengan fidyah? Mohon tanggapan Ustadz, karena saya bingung antara Fidyah dan Qodo. Terima kasih atas jawabannya. Wassalam

Jawaban:

Fidyah adalah denda yang harus dibayarkan kepada orang faqir/miskin yang disebabkan meninggalkan puasa wajib bulan Ramadhan. Sedangkan yang menyebabkan seseorang harus membayar fidyah adalah karena beberapa hal, antara lain:

1 Tidak mampu

Orang yang kondisinya tidak mampu untuk berpuasa seperti orang yang sudah tua maka boleh meninggalkan kewajiban puasa Ramadhan. Dan sebagai gantinya, tidak perlu mengqadha‘/mengganti puasa di hari lain, tetapi dengan membayar 1 mud makanan kepada fakir miskin satu hari untuk satu orang.

Alah berfirman:

وعلى الذين يطيقونه فدية طعام مسكين.

Dan wajib bagi orang-orang yang berat menjalankannya (jika mereka tidak berpuasa) membayar fidyah, (yaitu): memberi makan seorang miskin”. (QS. Al-Baqarah: 184).

2 Sakit

Sakit yang diperkirakan sulit untuk bisa disembuhkan lagi, sehingga tidak mungkin baginya untuk mengqadha‘ puasa di hari lain. Karena itu bagi mereka yang menderita sakit seperti ini, siahkan mengganti puasa dengan membayar fidyah.

3 Hamil/Menyusui

Wanita yang hamil atau menyusui bila boleh tidak berpuasa di bulan Ramadhan. Menurut sebagian ulama, untuk menggantinya adalah dengan mengqadha‘ dan juga membayar fidyah.

Namun sebagian lain seperti Al-Hanafiyah mengatakan cukup mengqdha‘ saja tanpa membayar fidyah.

Hadits Nabi SAW

Dari Ibnu Abbas ra. Berkata, ?Keringanan buat laki dan wanita usia lanjut yang tidak mampu puasa adalah boleh berbuka dengan membayar (fidyah), memberi makan 1 orang miskin untuk sehari. Dan keringanan buat wanita hamil dan menyuusi bila mengkhawatirkan anak mereka adalah membayar fidyah.(HR Abu Daud)

Sebab Perbedaan

Para ulama memang berbeda pendapat dalam mengkategorikan wanita hamil dan menyusui, apakah digolongkan sebagai orang sakit atau sebagai orang yang lemah/tidak mampu berpuasa (seperti orangtua dan lain-lain).

Yang mengkategorikan sebagai orang sakit, maka mewajibkan qadha‘/mengganti puasa, karena bagi orang sakit memang wajib qadha‘. Firman Allah:

Maka barang siapa yang sakit atau dalam perjalanan (lalu dia berbuka), maka waib mengganti sebanyak hari yang dia tinggalkan itu pada hari-hari yang lain (QS Al-Baqarah: 184)

Sedangkan yang mengkategorikan orang lemah/tidak mampu puasa, mewajibkan bayar fidyah tanpa qadha‘.

Dalilnya adalah terusan ayat diatas yaitu:

Dan bagi orang-orang yang berat menjalankannya (jika mereka tidak puasa) membayar fidyah)yaitu memberi makan seorang miskin (QS Al-Baqarah 184).

Dan Imam syafi‘i mewajibkan keduanya yaitu bayar fidyah dan juga qadha karena beliau memasukkan orang hamil sebagai orang sakit sekaligus pula orang lemah.

Wallahu a‘lam bis-shawab.

http://www.syariahonline.com/new_index. ... 15/cn/1007

Pertanyaan

Assalamu ‘alaikum. Wr. Wb

Ustad yang dirahmati Allah. pertanyaan yang ingin saya sampaikan adalah mengenai puasa. Wanita hamil atau menyusui termasuk dalam salah satu golongan yang mendapat keringanan untuk tidak puasa ramadhan.

Yang ingin saya tanyakan adalah mengenai penggantiannya apakah dengan puasa di hari lain, atau membayar fidyah atau bahkan dua-duanya (membayar puasa dan fidyah)?

Jazakallah atas jawabannya.

Wassalamu ‘alaikumWr. Wb

Ahmed

Jawaban

Assalamu ‘alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh,

Masalah wanita yang sedang hamil atau menyusui memang tidak ada nash yang sharih untuk menetapkan bagaimana mereka harus mengganti puasa wajib. Yang ada nashnya dengan tegas adalah orang sakit, musafir dan orang tua renta yang tidak mampu lagi berpuasa.

Orang sakit dan musafir dibolehkan untuk tidak puasa, lalu sebagai konsekuensinya harus mengganti (qadha’) dengan cara berpuasa juga, sebanyak hari yang ditinggalkannya.

Sedangkan orang yang sudah sangat tua dan tidak mampu lagi untuk berpuasa, boleh tidak berpuasa namun tidak mungkin baginya untuk mengqadha (menganti) dengan puasa di hari lain. Maka Allah SWT menetapkan bagi mereka untuk membayar fidyah, yaitu memberi makanan kepada fakir miskin sebagai satu mud.

Dalil atas kedua kasus di atas adalah firman Allah SWT:

Maka barangsiapa di antara kamu ada yang sakit atau dalam perjalanan, maka (dibolehkan berbuka dengan mengganti puasa) sebanyak hari yang ditinggalkan itu pada hari-hari yang lain. Dan wajib bagi orang-orang yang berat menjalankannya membayar fidyah, (yaitu) memberi makan seorang miskin. (QS. Al-Baqarah: 184)

Bagaimana dengan wanita hamil dan menyusui, apakah mereka mengganti dengan puasa atau dengan bayar fidyah? Atau malah kedua-duanya? Para ulama berbeda pendapat dalam hal ini.

Jumhur Ulama

Di dalam kitab Kifayatul Akhyar, disebutkan bahwa masalah wanita hamil dan menyusui dikembalikan kepada motivasi atau niatnya. Kalau tidak puasa karena mengkhawatirkan kesehatan dirinya, maka dianggap dirinya seperti orang sakit. Maka menggantinya dengan cara seperti mengganti orang sakit, yaitu dengan berpuasa di hari lain.

Sebaliknya, kalau mengkhawatirkan bayinya, maka dianggap seperti orang tua yang tidak punya kemampuan, maka cara menggantinya selain dengan puasa, juga dengan cara seperti orang tua, yaitu dengan membayar fidyah. Sehingga membayarnya dua-duanya.

Pendapat Ibnu Umar dan Ibnu Abbas

Namun menurut Ibnu Umar dan Ibnu Abbas radhiyallahu ‘anhuma, wanita yang hamil atau menyusui cukup membayar fidyah saja tanpa harus berpuasa. Karena keduanya tidak berpuasa bukan karena sakit, melainkan karena keadaan yang membuatnya tidak mampu puasa. Kasusnya lebih dekat dengan orang tua yang tidak mampu puasa.

Dan pendapat kedua shahabat ini mungkin tepat bila untuk menjawab kasus para ibu yang setiap tahun hamil atau menyusui, di mana mereka nyaris tidak bisa berpuasa selama beberapa kali ramadhan, lantaran kalau bukan sedang hamil, maka sedang menyusui.

Wallahu a’lam bishshawab, wassalamu ‘alaikum warahmatullahi wabarakatuh,

Ahmad Sarwat, Lc

http://www.eramuslim.com/ustadz/shm/782 ... fidyah.htm

Tambahan

Ke empat imam menyatakan bahwa jika wanita hamil atau menyusui kuatir akan kesehatannya atau anaknya, puasanya syah meskipun dia boleh meneruskan puasanya.

Bila dia memilih berbuka para imam berpendapat dia harus mengqoda(berpuasa di hari lain) puasanya. Para imam berbeda berpendapat tentang fidyah dan membayar denda.

Imam Hanafi berpendapat: bukanlah hal yang wajib.

Imam Malik berpendapat: wajib bagi yang menyusui tetapi tidak untuk yang hamil.

Imam Hambali dan Syafeí berpendapat fidyah wajib bagi yang hamil dan wanita mrnyusui hanya jika mereka mengkuatirkan anaknya; tetapi bila dia kuatir akan kesehatannya dan kesehatan anaknya, maka dia wajib mengkoda puasanya tanpa harus membayar fidyah. Fidyah setiap hari satu mud, cukup untuk makan seorang miskin.

Para imam menyatakan bila wanita hamil mendekati melahirkan atau anak yang sedang menyusui dapat mengganggu kesehatan ibu yang berpuasa, keduanya sebaiknya membatalkan puasanya dan tidak syah keduanya bila berpuasa. Mereka harus mengkoda puasanya dan juga membayar fidyah, satu mud, bila dikuatirkan kesehatan anaknya terganggu. Bila hanya dikuatirkan kesehatan si ibu, sebagian imam berpendapat si ibu harus mengqoda puasanya tetapi tidak perlu membayar fidyah, yang lain berpendapat dia harus mengkoda puasanya dan harus membayar fidyahnya.

http://www.al-islam.org/ENCYCLOPEDIA/chapter7/3.html

The conclusion is:

If u r pregnant/Bfing & x fasting bc u r worried about ur own condition (category sakit) : wajib qadha shj.

But

If u r pregnant/Bfing & x fasting bc u r worried about ur baby condition (category tak mampu) : fidyah shj. Tp ade jugak yg ckp wajib dua2.

However, i found anor q&a:

1. rosmaninda bt othman, on Wednesday, 3 June, 2009 at 9:29 am Said:

   1.saya melahirkan anak pada hari pertama puasa, adakah saya wajib ganti puasa penuh sebulan atau bolehkah saya membayar fidiah separuh puasa..

   Abul Harith : Terima kasih Puan Rosmaninda atas soalan.

   Puasa yang ditinggalkan perlu diganti mengikut hari yang ditinggalkan. Namun, jika Puan mendapati kesukaran menggantikan puasa lantaran menyusukan anak selepas melahirkannya, maka Puan boleh membayar fidyah.

   WaLLAHu a’lam.
2. 

   Shafinaz, on Monday, 29 June, 2009 at 3:46 pm Said:

   Assalamualaikum,

   saya ada soalan, saya telah meninggalkan puasa sebanyak 30 hari dalam bulan ramadhan tahun lepas kerana mengandung 8 bulan. Pada permulaan, saya telah cuba berpuasa tetapi tidah mampu utk meneruskan hingga waktu berbuka kerana tekanan darah rendah menyebabkan rasa nak pitam.. selepas bersalin, sehinggal sekarang pula saya menyusu bayi. Kawan2 menyatakan saya tidak perlu menggantikan puasa tetapi hanya wajib membayar fidyah. Apa pandangan ustaz? Saya sendiri berasa tidak mampu utk menggantikan puasa kerana saya memang perlu minum air yang banyak untuk mengeluarkan susu yang banyak utk bayi saya..

   harap dapat jawapan dari ustaz..

   wallahualam

   Abul Harith : Wassalam & terima kasih Puan Shafinaz atas soalan.

   Perlu diingatkan bahawa alasan mengharuskan buka puasa adalah disebabkan TIDAK MAMPU, bukannya sewenang-wenangnya dibenarkan kepada semua ibu mengandung & menyusukan anak. Ini adalah pendapat Ibn Hazm.

   Dari sudut perubatan, antara sebab ibu mengandung & menyusu dibolehkan tidak berpuasa kerana TIDAK MAMPU adalah apabila mengalami dehidrasi (hilang cecair badan), tekanan darah rendah, pening dan pucat.

   Ada wanita yang mampu puasa walaupun mengandung & menyusu. Namun tidak dinafikan ada sesetengah wanita yang tidak mampu.

   Maka, jika puan antara yang tidak mampu disebabkan masalah yang dinyatakan, maka dibolehkan berbuka. Puan hanya perlu membayar fidyah mengikut hari yang ditinggalkan jika masih tidak mampu ganti puasa. Selain itu, Puan disarankan mendapatkan nasihat doktor samada Puan lebih sesuai untuk berpuasa atau tidak.

   WaLLAHu a’lam.

My conclusion in my condition:

I'll just pay fidyah for the 4 days i missed and will try my very best to fast in this coming month of ramadhan hoping that my uterus will stop being irritable or at least the pain is bearable so, i don't hv to depend on medication to ease the contractions). Perhaps, when i'm fit enuff after delivery n before the next coming ramadhan (hoping that i'm not pregnant again at that time..hihihi) i'll replace the 4 days i missed.